We are used to seeking medical help every time our physical health is affected, but what do we do when the problems and situations around us become a very heavy mental burden or cause us emotional pain?
The World Health Organization (WHO) defines health as "a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, not just the absence of disease or illness." So, we are really healthy when there are no physical ailments or persistent mental or emotional discomforts that affect us significantly in our daily lives.
Why do we only look for help when there is any physical discomfort and tend to carry the emotional pain on our own? Since we are children we are conditioned to pay attention almost all the time to what happens to our bodies, to what happens to the external part of us of us. That is, our parents asked us if our tummy, head or knee ached after falling down, and they taught us that if something went wrong the doctor was the right professional to deal with any such condition.
They educated us on how to dress, to take care of our personal appearance. But what about the emotions? did we learn how to identify what we felt and how to deal with our feelings during our childhood? did someone really teach us to properly express what was happening to us? Maybe yes, but for some people to experience fear or sadness was not allowed at home or was seen as a sign of weakness, perhaps others actually learn how to express or handle anger and frustration, but for others this remained unknown. And what about the cases where not even the expression of euphoria, joy and happiness were an option for them at home.
So we grow up in a world where our emotional world sometimes becomes invisible, and is not part of what we are taught at home or at school because it cannot “be seen”, it is just assumed that it is not important or that it does not exist because it does not leave a bruise on the knee or cause a fracture in the femur. In addition, we grow in a society where the psychologist is for "crazy people", "problematic" and "sick" or "weak" and where to talk about our emotions, feelings and thoughts in a psychology setting is a taboo.
In adulthood we will have become used to carrying our emotional load for life, sometimes light or very heavy and we will not be able to realize that we are not feeling well, and if we become aware or realize that something is wrong we will prone to believe that living or being alive is like that, just painful, overwhelming or stressful and sad, and there is nothing else that can be done to change that.
And what happens then when you get older? and what about old age? There are many studies that have shown that sustaining an inappropriate management of emotions and feelings throughout life seems to be associated with physical ailments or illnesses such as: cancer, increased blood pressure, stroke, gastritis, among other conditions. It is for all this that being aware that we do not feel good and seeking psychological help becomes fundamental.
How will a psychologist help me?
A specialist in psychology can, among other things, help you to see or look at situations from a different perspective that you had not previously considered, suggest to evaluate the events/situations that affect you differently, in such a way that can be more beneficial to you. Also, accompany and guide you in expressing, identifying and managing your emotions and feelings.
A good psychologist can support you in the process of solving problems and recommend healthy lifestyles that will improve your health (physical, mental and social).
The psychologist accompanies the person in an atmosphere free of criticism and judgment, always offering an emphatic attitude where the patient can express his ideas, beliefs, thoughts, emotions and feelings with freedom.
The psychologist is a professional who has been trained for at least 5 years to be able to practice his/her profession legally. He/she is highly qualified to implement a wide range of tools and strategies from different psychological approaches, which allows him/her to evaluate the case in the setting and establish a plan of action or plan a treatment, considering the person’s well-being.
The clinical psychologist is skilled to evaluate, treat and prevent mental disorders in children and adults. It also provides support and relief for people whom, while might not be suffering from any mental disorder, are experiencing feelings or going through situations that they feel are affecting them in a negative way.
The most common reasons for consultation are: stress, anxiety (or a state of constant worry), depressed mood (or sadness), difficulties in the relationship or sexual problems, interpersonal issues at work or with family, among others.
Likewise, there is people who look for psychological therapy motivated by their own need of personal development. Sometimes the desire to grow as a person and want to change is reason enough to ask for professional support.
I invite you to think about you, how you feel at this very moment of your life and take care of your health. Remember, being healthy does not mean being free of physical illness, health involves the psychological sphere and the social aspect of the human being, if you do not feel good seek psychological help.
Camoa Bastidas Burke
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